I’ve heard from many sources that it is not so much about what you know anymore as it is about who you know. For a while, I was puzzled as to what this meant. I thought “But how can my being in school not matter as much or more than who I happened to know“. I can’t remember exactly when I first heard that notion, it was probably when I was transitioning from middle school into high school; the naivety I had to actually think that in upcoming years the knowledge I had would actually outweigh the people I knew and their ability to assist me was evident. Sure, in a perfect world one’s educational attainment would have more of a bearing on various decisions than who the person knows. But then again, is that even a perfect world? Who says that because someone received a higher education they are of more value than someone who did not receive the higher education? Then again, what about one’s innate ability to understand simplistic versus complex concepts?
The way of the world today is somewhat scary in that out of the 100% certainty behind a “Yes” answer there is more than 50% which is relied solely on who you may or may not know. Did you know the interviewer, did the interviewer know you, did the interviewer know someone who knew you, and etc. etc. etc! I can come up with a slew of “who knew who” that is used as justification for saying “Yes” to someone rather than saying “No”.
However, the initial reason for this post was to explore how sometimes we as people forget how to be humble for knowing whomever it is that we know. I had a personal encounter in this regard last week Friday. Story time!
Last week, I asked a friend of mines to start me in lessons on the turntables. I’ve been wanting to learn how to mix for years now and I finally said to myself: “It’s either now or never to learn so just go for it!” To skip the play-by-play and to give you the moral of the story, a negative comment was made about a company that I am affiliated with, DaFlavaRadio, and I took offense and defended my position, Radio Personality, at the company but there was an awkward moment after that comment was made.
The hot-tempered Island Woman could have come out in me and I could have flew off the handle something major, but I chose not to. I figured it would make a great blog post and a lesson to anyone affiliated with the person, Chiney K, and the company, CaribVibesRadio, from which the comment was made. Personally, I went to the event not really knowing what to expect but I am a very open-minded individual and I believe from every experience a lesson can be learned. Additionally, networking is always an option when meeting new people. I would never walk into anyone’s establishment and disrespect their craft or what they are doing.
When I started by talking about it’s who you know more so than what you know, it lead into this issue. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but it would serve you well to humble your opinion to take the form of constructive criticism versus sounding like you are being disrespectful. At the end of the day, no one knows what opportunities or challenges he/she may face tomorrow and by choosing to think before you speak can do you more good than harm.
I could have not named where the comments came from or who they were targeted towards but honestly it was said, an apology was given and this post is not to disrespect anyone but to shed light on the fact that if you are not humble in all that you do, your arrogance, cockiness and overt confidence can hurt you more than it helps you.
So I leave you all on that note with the following two quotes below. Please feel free to comment or spread the message.
“Teaching is the highest form of understanding.” – Aristotle … “Humility is the gateway into the grace and the favor of God.” – Harold Warner
Until the next post…